A new way of life - Part 8

The first few days of the week went by normally, with them communicating on WhatsApp in the evening after meeting at the gym. Consciously, neither would call the other during work hours. On Wednesday night, Sophia eagerly awaited the arrival of Fernando. I wanted to give you some good news. She told him that she had been summoned by her boss and that he, after a lecture, had highly praised her professional qualities and her new look. She emphasized the modern posture she has been presenting lately, showing to be more loose, more exuberant, more efficient, dedicated and confident, which ended up attracting the attention of the board. With this she was summoned to present herself as the first secretary of the board in place of the current one who resigned. The salary has been reformulated, as well as some privileges have been added. Sophia was very happy, and she blamed Fernando for this promotion, because he was the main cause of this great transformation that is happening in her life, when he encouraged her to a reformulation in her personal marketing. Fernando, also happy, said that this was worthy of a celebration, and that over the weekend they would celebrate it. He also said he had several surprises. Sophia eagerly filled that curiosity, and Fernando scored each one. First the order from the sex shop had arrived and it had interesting things for him and for her. She just typed in a "Huummm". Wanting to know more, Fernando went on, saying that Julio had called and passed him a list of ten males, which according to him are special, and that you will like very much, because Carla recommends them as a note ten, and Fernando amended: If you're going to like it, that's a sign that I'm going too. Sophia typed the smile: He added: You are beautiful. And finally, Fernando added that although he has the list of these males, he called Rodrigo and made an appointment with him for Friday at 9:00 p.m. at the same hotel they were staying at on Sunday. - I already made the reservation at the hotel. He completed it. Sophia confessed that she was eager for Friday to arrive, but at the same time, she was also apprehensive because it would be the first time that she would be face to face with a male. Fernando once again reassured her, saying that he will always be by her side giving her all the support she needs, that he will always take care of her, that he will fill her with affection and a lot of love. He also said that when Rodrigo asked him if there were any restrictions he referred only to kisses on the mouth, otherwise, everything is allowed, with care and sweetness. Sophia typed: - That's perfect, my love. Sophia was overwhelmed by all these revelatory events happening simultaneously in her professional, personal, and romantic life. She never imagined that meeting a male voyeur would radically change her behavior. Fernando then emphasized that this was not the reason for the change. The truth is that she already had strong tendencies to be a liberal, and her desires and fantasies about the ménage were very strong and present. She merely concealed them and did not reveal them to anyone, thereby stifling all her longings and automatically repressing also her wills, and for not having anywhere to give vent to her instincts there was a certain conformism on her part during all this time in relation to all these wills, that is: She ended up conforming, believing that she would never find anyone who would lead her to realize her fantasies, then, out of convenience, she ended up leaving everything for it, and so she was touching the life within this cesspool, accommodating herself to the prison of routine, putting aside her self-esteem, her vanity and her dreams. Desperate, she refused to risk her life. From the moment they met Fernando had the sensitivity to realize her cloistered desires and awakened her again to her dreams, showing her the path she wisely embarked on with courage and certainty. After all, what is life without a dream? The important thing about all of this is that she, at that moment, was ready to sacrifice what she was for what she could be. And it was the best decision of my life. She said, all excited. If you allow yourself to dream and walk freely towards your dreams, that's one of the great secrets of happiness, the other is in being free, and the secret to winning that freedom is in courage, and you've shown yourself to be a brave woman. It was Fernando. - But anyway, my love, it was you who awakened me from the deep sleep I found myself in regarding my desires and fantasies, freeing me from the shackles of fear. She said, always showing gratitude for all the good things happening in her life. And Fernando went on to say: Well, if she comes from a rigid upbringing, full of prejudices and dogmas, has not the slightest vocation for liberal, nor even dreamed, never, one day to have two men in a relationship, thought of this possibility, if this does not awaken any desire in her, then she will surely repudiate this proposal with all vehemence, and will regard it as some kind of absurdity and intimidation, thereby certainly generating some discomfort between the couple, putting in check the future pleasure of the marriage. But in this case it is even more difficult. But even if the woman has a desire and not perceiving any intolerance in the behavior of her husband, try at all costs to convince her to accept a ménage. Well, if she comes from a rigid upbringing, full of prejudices and dogmas, she has not the slightest vocation for liberal, nor has she even dreamed, never, ever, one day to have two men in a relationship, thought of this possibility, if this does not awaken any desire in her, then she will surely repudiate this proposal with all the vehemence, and will regard it as some kind of absurdity and intimidation, thereby, surely, generating some discomfort between the couple, mainly putting in check on the future pleasure of the marriage. But in this case it is even more difficult for two husbands to separate. - You are perfect, you are unique. Said Sophia, ecstatic at the knowledge and security Fernando gave her. - No, I'm not your friend. He said it. - Every voyeur is like that. And to conclude, he asked. - Have you, by any chance, ever heard of a liberal couple whose ménage husband and wife split up, or whose husband or wife switched partners for another equally liberal one? Sophia thought it was funny, so she said no. I've never heard of a case like that. - This denotes the solidity of these relationships, because there is trust, sincerity and honesty in the relationship. No one needs to hide anything from anyone, because everything can be done openly and together. All desires can be realized without restrictions. There is complicity and truth. There is no mistrust or lie, which undermines every relationship. Some liberal husbands accept that their wives have relations without their presence. This gives them the security that they will never do anything hidden, because the husband allows them. They, accustomed to this, warn before, because it is part of their pleasure and the husband waits for them to do after this relationship. Sophia further pointed out, saying that it is a pity that many people still cling to conventions and beliefs, not freeing themselves from old behaviors of the past. - We live in the future and the only thing that hasn't modernized are some behavioral attitudes. We insist on this backward and archaic conduct tied to religious beliefs until death do us part. That doesn't exist. Plural relationships are modern relationships, and when in synchronicity and complicity of their peers, can result in pleasurable and lasting relationships. As a result of this conversation, Fernando said that he had a ready and conclusive text, which made clear the marital attitudes. And he posted it. <unk> Relationships outside marriage It is common for wives to feel more sexual desire for their husbands after an extramarital affair. English sociologist Catherine Hakim claims that having an affair is good for marriage. In her new book she explains why extramarital affairs make couples happier. A difficult idea to accept in a sexist world. After all, one of the assumptions of our society is that the monogamous couple is the only valid structure of human sexual relationship, being so superior that it need not be questioned. In fact, we place so much importance on monogamous relationships that discussion of alternative relationships is very rare. However, societies that embrace monogamy have difficulty proving its effectiveness. On the contrary, there seems to be strong evidence, expressed by the high rates of extramarital affairs, that monogamy doesn't work very well for Westerners. Not everyone accepts the argument that humans are 'predestined' to monogamy and develop other freely chosen forms of relationship. In 1976, the psychotherapist and writer Roberto Freire, put on the discussion table his proposal of libertarian love. He used to say: Although many people consider this ideology of love to be pure utopia, almost everyone dreams of this possibility. Personally, it's all I want: my love, both my feeling and the person I love, to not only love them the way I like, but to let them love the way they like, even beyond and in spite of me. I'm looking for people who love like that, too. It's been hard, but I always end up finding them... It is fascinating, frightening, wonderful, painful, pleasurable, new, unpredictable, uncontrollable, rich, crazy, romantic, chaotic, adventurous, he says. The psychoanalyst W. Reich asserted that the pernicious influence of moral prejudices in this area will never be sufficiently denounced. What everyone should know is that sexual desire for other people is a natural part of the sex drive. Despite all the teachings that encourage all sexual energy to be invested in a single person <unk> husband or wife <unk>, men and women are deeply adulterous. Maybe it's time to start questioning whether fidelity really has anything to do with sexuality. Because of this, plural relationships are an effective and pleasurable method to avoid infidelity and promote complicity. Keep going.